Lillian Asan (Vuscko), age 95, passed away on Wednesday, August 17, 2022 after a two-year long struggle with breast cancer. Beloved wife of John Asan (deceased); loving mother of Maureen (John) Nipaver, John (Mary Ann) Asan and Jeffrey Asan; proud grandmother of Brian Asan, Elizabeth (Spencer) Whitney, Lindsey(Josh) Thompson and Christie (Stephen) Brantley; great grandmother of Nellie, Charlotte, Jacob, Brooks and Asa. Lillian was born on November 22, 1926 in Chicago to Ignatius and Antoinett Vuscko.
After losing her mom to tuberculosis, and two brothers as infants, Lillian was raised by her dad as a single parent. This experience created a strong, hardworking, independent and creative woman who cherished her family dearly. She and our dad were devoted to one another and spent many years together with their friends as founding members of the Chi Orioles and as volunteers at the PAV YMCA in Berwyn. Mom was beautiful inside and out and lived her life with humor, kindness and beauty.
A Memorial Service is scheduled for Saturday, September 24th 2022 Visitation: 8:30am until 10:15am chapel prayers at Beidelman-Kunsch Funeral Home 516 South Washington Street Naperville, IL. 60540 ph#630-355-0264. Inurnment to follow at: Resurrection Cemetery 7201 Archer Rd. Justice, Il.60458
In lieu of flowers, memorials in Lillian’s name may be made to Living Well Cancer Resource Center Geneva 442 Williamsburg Avenue, Geneva, Il. 60134
Arrangements for the Asan family are entrusted to Debbie Zefran Jerry, Funeral Director ph-630-230-8399; cell:708-212-0413. www.newtraditionfunerals.com
MEMORIES SHARED BY MAUREEN WITH LOVE AT MOM’S SERVICE
Thank you all for coming to celebrate our incredible mom, Lillian Asan. We’ve
shared some great stories about my mom and my mom and dad and we are so
grateful that she had a such long life and that we were able to spend the amount
of time we had with her. The last month in particular before she died, I was able
to spend a great deal of time with her and even being terribly sick, she continued
to embody all of the qualities that I so admired her for. Of course, she would
lament that she had no one to talk to because she had outlived all of her friends
and family and I can only imagine how hard that must have been for her. She
missed her best friend Kayo…… Bucky, JR and Vodge, Eddie and Rosie, Sinks and
Wilma and Ron and Fran Zefran to name a few……… her cousins Tillie, Steffie and
Marie. But through it all, she was so strong, always upbeat and kept her great
sense of humor. She never complained, never wanted us to go out of our way.
Her daily routine would start like this: she would get up around 6:00, turn the
coffee pot on, grab her golf putter, go to the front door where the newspaper
would be waiting and snag the Sun Times in with the putter. She would then
pour her cup of coffee, milk no sugar, retire to the den, catch up on the headlines
on the Today Show and then turn off the TV (she didn’t want it to breakdown
from overuse). She would grab her clipboard, attach the daily Sun Times
crossword puzzle and work on it for an hour or so before she started her chores
for the day.
Mom was always there for us. If we had a project at school that required any
artwork, she would come through and make our poster boards look wonderful.
She could be stubborn. She never wanted to learn how to drive and we could
never convince her to even try. Even if my dad wasn’t around to take her, she
would walk to 35 th street in the middle of a snowstorm to the Jewel if she needed
groceries. Any further distances, my dad was more than willing to drive her and
wait while she shopped. We even caught him talking to the store mannequins on
one trip, patiently waiting for her. He was crazy about her.
Next to her family and friends, Mom loved her house and loved to decorate She
would be bursting with pride when someone visited for the first time and they
mentioned how clean and bright and spacious her house was. She could make a
silk purse from a sow's ear as the saying goes. She made a valance for her
bedroom once out of cardboard and cloth and a Styrofoam wall hanger for her
small plants in her “spa” bathroom. She was jack of all trades and could do just
about anything around the house including tuckpoint. She would change one
accessory and it would make her day. My dad tried for years to get her to move
but nope, she wasn’t going anywhere. More than anything her wish was to spend
her final years in her home and we were able to do that because of MaryAnn and
I don’t know what Mom and I would have done without them. Over the years
they were there for mom to take her to doctor’s appointments, to the Jewel once
a week for groceries where they would let her take off, my brother John‘s
watchful eye not far behind as she used to tell me, or to spend time with her out
for a nice lunch. Maryann would bring a couple portions of a meal she had
cooked for my mom to try and John was there to make any needed repairs on the
house and help her with her finances. When mom was sick, Maryann
volunteered some of her clothing, knowing they would be more comfortable for
her. She went above and beyond, changing Mom’s bandages, assisting her with
personal care and brightening her home with beautiful artwork.
They are truly the best…………..
But if you talked to my Mom…………. she managed the household. She kept it spic
and span and would take pride in the fact that she could call Pat, the Cicero
Alderman any time to get things repaired. She also had total control over her
checkbook. Up to the very last week of her life, she took great pride in writing
those checks out and balancing the checkbook, just as my dad had taught her.
Mom was always fun to be around and you never really felt like you were talking
to an older person, she was young at heart. She had a great sense of humor and
sometimes it would irritate my dad when he would do something we thought was
funny, we would get into laughing so hard we’d have to leave the room. He’d say
“you two are crazy”. She would take great pride in getting good deals on
expensive clothing and always looked classy. I remember being so surprised when
I found out that she used henna on her hair to get the auburn color, I thought for
years that it was natural! Only in the last year did she let her hair turn gray and
she reminded me that she did not like it!
My dad was the extrovert he used to say and my mom was the introvert. It was
true, she was always friendly and kind to people, she just didn’t need to have
people around all of the time which probably served her well after my dad passed
away. She always had an upbeat attitude and rarely complained. She never
wanted to put anyone out or have them go out of their way so I guess you’d say
she always thought of others first before herself. She loved her crossword
puzzles, Grey's Anatomy, People Magazine, pork schnitzel from Aldi’s, poticia,
dark chocolate turtle candy, dancing with or without my dad as we found out,
Marshalls, Spencer calling her on the way home from work and my brother Jeff’s
weekly phone calls. Even as she turned 90, she wanted to go check out the latest
styles and so we’d get her a cart and let her go. She didn’t want you to have to
worry about watching over her.
Mom was never a talker on the phone and would always crack us up in her later
years, saying, well not much going on …..gotta go! In the last month we talked
about how she wanted to be remembered and she said as a great Mom and I told
her she was, 10 times over, the best mom that anyone could hope for. I
reminded her that her mother, who she hardly knew and who did not live past
her mid-20’s would have been so proud of all that her daughter accomplished as a
wife, mother and friend and that she lived to be the grand age of 95.
I only aspire to be exactly like her, 95 years young. Her strength and
independence throughout her life and her recent illness is to be admired. She did
it all with humor, kindness and of course, beauty
The last year she would say……… why am I not sitting on a cloud by now and I’d
say, Mom, Dad is just not ready for you yet, he wants to make sure everything is
perfect. Well, your time has come Mom, you are looking down on us now
surrounded by all of your friends and family…………… rest in peace………. and we’d
never say good bye, it was always, love you and until next time…………
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In Loving Memory of Lillian Asan